Having a Hot-Tempered Boyfriend? Leave or Stay?

Question:

Dear Silencer,
I read your blog and i'm interested in asking for consultations.
I am 23 years old lady and currently still a student doing my degree.
I have a boyfriend and yes i do love him very dearly.But somehow,lately for the past few months he was so hot temper till today.Just a slight mistake and BOOM! there goes the day out the window.
I've been holding myself back and i tend to be the one who back off everytime we quarrel.I feel like giving him a piece of my mind,and tell him that he is waaaayyy too much.
However,i do not know how and when to tell him.
I know deep down inside i still love him,even my heart still love him,my mind will say that i hate him.
I'm confused dear silencer.This not only had happen once or twice,but A LOT of TIMES!
I really need advice.I don't mind breaking up this relationship because he is just being way too much already.But half of me is still 50:50 cause i still think about his family.they love me so dearly.


Thanks.

Answer:
Listen my dear,
It is great that you still love him..You're a student aren't you? Firstly i would like to know that if this hot tempered attitude of his affects your study? Won't you feel stress and your performance in academic will gradually fall in time? From the way i see things i can see that he is hoping for you to be perfect..(which none of us,humans,can do it.).
If you wish to tell him,then please go ahead and tell him.because for a relationship to be great,both side need to know the problems and take out the dissatisfaction between the both of you. Then,things will only start to get better.You're on the fence right now aren't you?
As a consultant,i suggest you STOP this relationship as soon as possible.Why?
Firstly,you're still a student.Education is far more important than this relationship.
Second,With his hot temper issues,he might scold you like a mad bull for now..and i won't be surprised if he lays a hand on you in the future.I was a hot-tempered person before and i know.
Third,before you think about others,you have to think about yourself.AND before you love others,you have to love yourself.If you really love yourself,then let him go for the sake of yourself my dear.
Lastly,have you ever think,if you ever get married with him,will you be happy with him scolding you?
Will you be happy whenever he beats you? Can he set a good example to your children whenever he scolds you infront of them? Think! Think for the future. Guys always have this concept that they follow,'They won't know what they have until it's gone'. If he can change after the break up,it is worth considering to take him back.If you don't trust him anymore,then it's best to just stay away from him. Remember,love yourself before you love others.
You can be strong,i know. If you can stay up to this long with him banging your ears,i believe that you are a very strong lady indeed. It might hurt to dump him in the beginning,but with the help of friends and family,it'll be as smooth as a silk! You'll feel rejuvenate!

Cheers!

'I Love You,Baby i'm not a monster'